I can’t believe it’s been this long, but today is our wedding anniversary.
We’d been together for a few years before getting married, but we knew pretty much from the start that it was going to happen for us. There was no dramatic proposal, just him asking, “Well, since we’re already basically married, how about we make it official?” I basically shrugged, and said, “Sure.”
We’re so romantic.
Anyway, in honor of the occasion, I thought I’d share with you a couple of the things we made ourselves to save money and make the event ours.
|The ribbon tied
around our joined
hands during the
There are as many wedding traditions out there as there are cultures. As I was doing research, I came
across a beautiful, simple ceremony called “handfasting”. It has its roots in pre-Christian Britain (now the UK), and it was used for centuries as a way for Pagan couples to marry in secret. Once laws forbidding pagan practices were repealed, it gained in popularity again.
Originally, the couple would loop their arms and hands together to form a sort of infinity symbol, but that eventually evolved into the officiant loosely binding the couple’s hands together with a special rope or ribbon before vows are said.
In our case, I made the ribbon out of three. The colors I chose were bluish-silver and gold, to represent the feminine energies of the moon and masculine energies of the sun, and white, to represent the universal energy which binds us all.
All I did was unroll several feet of each ribbon, tie it on one end and loosely braided it until roughly the same amount of ribbon at the start hung free. I really liked how it turned out, and still have it in storage with some other keepsakes I’m holding for the next person who will be married in our family, should they want to use it.
Of course, you can use any color combination, according to the colors you pick for decoration or their significance to you. You may even be able to use ivy or flower garlands instead of ribbon, but unless you dry them, it wouldn’t be possible to store them for the long term.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with going to a florist, but we found the prices were far more than we wanted to spend for such a tiny ceremony. Instead, we hit up a local store and picked various kinds of flowers ourselves.
The morning of the wedding, we made simple boutonniere for the gents out of a few flowers, I believe some string or ribbon and straight pins to attach them to suit jackets.
Because the wedding was so casual, we only made one tiny bouquet for me, by bundling some flowers together in a pretty arrangement, wrapping a damp paper towel around the cut ends and binding it with some ribbon.
|Hubby and I, shortly after we were married. Although simple,
the flowers turned out beautifully, and cost much less than if
we had a florist do it for us.
My youngest sister did my hair, and put little sprigs of baby’s breath along with some ribbon as she was styling it for me. I think it all turned out beautifully.
When my mom married my step-dad, she also made her bouquet. Hers was far bigger than mine was, because I believe she combined silk flowers with real ones, and either used a Styrofoam ball to support their shape or bound them with wire. She had also purchased an arbor from somewhere, painted it white, and attached some lovely false flowers along the top and sides. Unfortunately, the wind that day knocked it down a couple of times, but the flowers stayed in surprisingly good shape. Of course, I have no idea what I did with any pictures I had.
My dad and step-mom also had rather simple arrangements for flowers. Each of us three girls were given these really pretty little wicker baskets to carry. In them, were both silk and real flowers stuck into a damp sort of foam. The real flowers lasted for a few days afterwards, thanks to the water in the foam, and the silk flowers lasted for years. Mine didn’t survive the multiple moves I put them through, but I still have the basket.
All three weddings were absolutely beautiful, and I’ll never forget them.
For bigger weddings, hiring a florist for some of the decoration is probably a good idea, but if I were to do it again, I think I’d rather handle flowers myself. We’ll see what happens for the eventual vow renewal, right?
By now, you probably realize that I’m not an over the top type of person, and I believe that the wedding industry plays a pretty big role in encouraging some couples to go into debt for the day of their wedding. Sometimes, that tends to overshadow what should be a special, personal day of union.
If you want a huge wedding, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that, but if you want something smaller and more intimate, do your best to ignore the pressure to do otherwise. In either case, though, creating something with your own hands to use in the ceremony, or as part of your attire, will make the event that much more memorable.